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Decluttering is liberating

Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by pixelpuffin, Aug 25, 2020.

  1. pixelpuffin

    pixelpuffin Well-Known Member

    I’m not knocking charity shops
    But I have a 2wk window in which to make a dramatic difference before I return to work full time. Selling stuff....is a nightmare, photographing, uploading, writing descriptions, replying to messages, haggling prices, waiting in and never turn up and so on..... and for what ??
    No, this time it’s about ME, not other people.
    There’s far far more than I thought
    Think we may order a 2nd skip.

    I keep saying the same thing to myself, why did I buy this? How many of these have I now uncovered? 30 odd years of stuff!!

    I just want it gone. Could not care less about it now. All I see now is mountains of clutter....I’m on a Roll !! :D
     
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  2. nimbus

    nimbus Well-Known Member

    Currently charity shops, like everyone else have problems with Covid-19 precautions, they have to isolate donations for a period before they can do anything with them, they only have so much storage space, hence the appointments and selectivity.

    I just cannot understand perfectly good and usable items being wantonly destroyed. If it is given away and then somebody subsequently sells it, what does it really matter? We send so much to landfill that could be used again or recycled, resources are finite.
     
  3. GeoffR

    GeoffR Well-Known Member

    Fair enough, I actually feel the same way about much of what clutters up my house. However, my local camera store will do a commission sale of just about any piece of camera kit, they will do the advertising etc. all you have to do is get it to them. Probably too late now but worthy of consideration in future or for anyone else in the same position.
     
  4. nimbus

    nimbus Well-Known Member

    As will Ffordes and others including Dale Photographic in Leeds (the op lives in Yorkshire).
     
  5. Catriona

    Catriona Well-Known Member

    I remember from my very young days the house sales/auctions which used to happen in the farming area I spent my first few years in. I assume this was when tenancies on farms expired and people moved on.
    I really could have done with an auctioneer coming to my old place and selling what he could. It has happened about 10 years ago when an old man with a house full of stuff, died. It is a good way to dispose of what you can, make some money from it and have less for the skip.

    I have been like pixelpuffin, giving away things to people, sending some to charity shops, disposing of unwanted things - at quite a cost to myself apart from the effort involved.

    I fully understand his position and I know how he feels. My neighbour said I was killing myself after my hubby died, just trying to run the house and in the end, getting ready to move to a place a fraction of the size. Like him, it was an accumulation of 30+ years stuff. I say, good luck! Why beat yourself up. Just get rid of it and turn over a new page in the life of!
     
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  6. pixelpuffin

    pixelpuffin Well-Known Member

    Well a work colleague stopped by wanting to know if I had a tile drill bits??
    He left with his estate car full!
    Hasn’t made the slightest dent in the garage....got tools coming out of my ears!!
    2nd skip coming tomorrow
    Will be following friends advice and putting some of the stuff on Facebook- first time for me!!
     
  7. LesleySM

    LesleySM Well-Known Member

    Trying albeit more slowly and somewhat less dramatically to declutter- at the moment it is a bit difficult because I have things I brought that are self-assembly, which in my case means "Jim can do it" and various odds and ends that need someone (i.e Jim) to put them up like coverings for the kitchen cabinets and he hasn't been able to come round because of this pandemic. But I have managed to take stuff to the charity shop but with me it is more sorting out storage space and yes. a lot of the self assembly stuff is things like shoe racks, coat stand, kitchen racks i.e storage stuff
     
  8. DaveS

    DaveS Well-Known Member

    TBH I have some bits not used for well over a year, maybe 2, but no way will I be smashing them up as there are folks who could put them to good use. But one at least is somewhat specialised.
     
  9. pixelpuffin

    pixelpuffin Well-Known Member

    How we declutter is a personal choice as is the reason why I bought them in the first instance.
    Again, I won’t use eBay ( scammers) Gumtree is truly awful... just the “owt for nowt” crowd. Charity shops...my partner has now taken 2 car fulls in the past 24hrs, the car is loaded up again for tomorrow. They won’t take any electrical equipment - so it’s skipped
    Each to their own how we dispose of OUR stuff - it’s nobody else’s business. Have made huge progress in both shed and garage. Feels amazing, but I admit some of it is really hard to let go. But, I’m trying to see it as it really is, most of the stuff has never moved let alone been used.
    This isn’t a spur of the moment thing, I’ve spent years trying to let go of stuff. There’s no mistaking now the massive impact it’s had. The whole house feels lighter. Floor space is clutter free, cloak room spartan, wardrobes now lighter. Shelves cleared away.
    Another couple of days de-cluttering and we will carry on with the decorating , which should be fairly straightforward.
    just bought a new carpet washer - we loaned ours out and when we came to use it...nothing!! Lesson - Not to loan this one out!! Sofa is booked in to be recovered, just bought new beds!!
    We are both fired up with renewed enthusiasm.
     
    Last edited: Aug 29, 2020
  10. Learning

    Learning Ethelred the Ill-Named

    I started decluttering about 20 years ago. It went very well until my late Mum went into a home. You can guess the rest. I have thousands of books. Literally thousands. Early encyclopedias, a Leeds early 1950's directory which might be one day valuable to a useless PhD sociologist student. Lots of coffee table art books, Arthur Mee's King's England, (some presents from me to my father), Prizes from Leeds Modern School to my father, prizes to me from my own school. Lots of books about physics and computing, a family bible (you know a lectern sized job) but not the proper one. This is from chapel.Both my parents bought and inherited books. So did I.
    To me there is something wrong about destroying books. But what to do with them? This is not trivial. I am seriously lumbered with thousands of books that I will never read, but which I can never consign to the scrap heap. I am not exaggerating.
    I also have a baby grand piano. For years I wanted it. Months after I inherited it I developed Dupuytren's contracture to the extent that I can't play it. It was my father's great pleasure to own and play it. How can I scrap it? It is not a posh make. It is not valuable in cash terms. If I get rid of it then it will go to scrap.
     
  11. pixelpuffin

    pixelpuffin Well-Known Member

    You must live in a mansion...baby grand WOW
    Can’t help you with that, I bet it’s a stunning feature!!
    RE books... I never counted how many I had. But a bank of 7 ikea full size floor to ceiling billy bookcases with full sized glazed doors were lined up along the spare living room, originally it had Ox blood Queen Anne chairs plus a matching 2 seater chesterfield. It did look very nice, but tastes change over years...the room was packed with books....just rammed!
    In the space of 2yrs they have all but gone including two full sets of Arthur Mee’s encyclopaedias (charity would not take - so skipped). The billy bookcases were finally broken up and skipped 2 days ago. The weight of those books must have been considerable as the skirting board attached to the wall now hovers ever so slightly above the dipped floor! the floor is 8x2 joists!!
    I now have around 40 books left, 15 are my most treasured Time Life photography series, I absolutely love them! All books now reside under the stairs, I cannabilised a billy bookcase to fit bespoke.
    Out of sight is much easier to live with on a day to day basis. But that baby grand sounds fabulous!!
     
  12. retrofit

    retrofit Well-Known Member

    I have billy bookcases with glass doors in my study, literally wall to wall billies :D

    I reckon you can fit 13 paperbacks on average per shelf, and 6 shelves max would allow for about 80 books. (that is for the half billy) ~ 175 books on full size maybe.
     
  13. retrofit

    retrofit Well-Known Member

    “The weight of those books must have been considerable as the skirting board attached to the wall now hovers ever so slightly above the dipped floor! the floor is 6x2 joists!!“

    sagging caused by creep deformation?

    This is also seen in the tungsten filaments of old lightbulbs, where elevated temperatures (typically around 30% of the materials melting point) and a constant applied force (gravity) can cause sagging over extended periods.
     
  14. SqueamishOssifrage

    SqueamishOssifrage Well-Known Member

    Better than ball to ball willies, I suppose.

    No I never wrote that - a big boy dun it and run away. :D
     
  15. EightBitTony

    EightBitTony Well-Known Member

    When my wife's arthritis finally meant holding books was too painful and she fully switched to a kindle, we looked at options for our 3000+ fiction collection. We sold a few to a local trader but they didn't seem to want the hassle, and we looked at Magpie and Amazon, and ebay, but in the end, we donated them in bulk to local charity*.

    It.
    Felt.
    Great.

    Not getting them out of the house, but being able to allow other people to read them, while making a bit of money for charity. Those books got a second lease of life. I hope that the people who buy them from charity stores read them, and then re-donate them (I know we did when we were still buying books). I hope some young person finds their love of fantasy and science fiction from the hundreds and hundreds of books we donated.

    We paid full price for many of the books, and we got that full price value out of them, and giving them away for nothing was cathartic.

    I recently got rid of approximately 1000 DVDs in the same way. Sold a few to a local CEX, and then donated the rest.


    * we kept anything we'd had signed, and some with sentimental value beyond the content.
     
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  16. nimbus

    nimbus Well-Known Member

    The problem with many of these items is that they have little monetary value, whilst being too good to destroy or go to landfill, so your attitude/policy is imho the best one. I look at the books here and in reality I could dispose of half of them, I don't really have much in the way of fiction, most are specialist interest titles. Some DVD titles are so common that Charity Shops have multiple copies of them, but are realistic enough to sell them cheaply, as are CEX. I maintain it is better to enable items to be rehomed than simply destroy or send to landfill, it's not a matter of money, it's responsibility.
     
  17. EightBitTony

    EightBitTony Well-Known Member

    In the early days of the Covid19 lockdown, we saw a couple of local Facebook groups flooded with people leaving boxes of books and DVDs outside for anyone else to pick up and use during lockdown. Very heart-warming. Many of them (not all) were for kids and young adults, and I bet they were a life saver for a lot of families.
     
  18. nimbus

    nimbus Well-Known Member

    Indeed. A matter of generosity of spirit.
     
  19. Craig20264

    Craig20264 Well-Known Member

    We have a loft space that no one has been in for at least 4 years. It’s full of stuff. I’d love to hire a skip and just throw it all in, but I’d have to do it when Mrs C is out. There are bits of tat up there that she will have straight on our already creaking shelves if she sees it!
     
  20. LesleySM

    LesleySM Well-Known Member

    I have a well battered copy of a book, the front cover fell off a few years ago, I have the same book twice after that but when I was decluttering I was about to throw this copy in the bin but I never will because on the first page is written "To Lesley with love on her birthday from Dave"
     
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